Author: MG

As a Brain Rewiring Life Coach, I am passionate about empowering individuals to break free from traditional beliefs and cultivate a deeper sense of mindfulness. My goal is to help you expand your perspective, navigate challenges with ease, and achieve a more stress-free and fulfilling life. Through innovative techniques and personalized guidance, I support you in transforming your mindset and embracing a path to growth and resilience

How We Twist Child Strength into Weaknesses

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Ever felt like your greatest qualities are being misunderstood or even undervalued? It’s a common experience: society often distorts our strengths into weaknesses, creating self-doubt and demotivation. Many people experience this when their simplicity is perceived as naivety in a world that often values cunning and complexity. The belief that “Being simple” equates to being too naïve to survive is a common distortion and wrong belief of child development by parents.

Being simple is not a crime—it’s a valuable trait that should be embraced, not dismissed. The challenge often lies in changing societal and familial perceptions that equate simplicity with naivety or inadequacy. Here’s how to navigate this and shift these perceptions:

Misguided Parenting Beliefs

Parents should prioritize fostering genuine intelligence and emotional resilience in their children, rather than trying to mold them into reflections of a cunning world. This approach often stems from misguided fears about survival and the erroneous belief that duplicating the world’s complexity is essential. Instead, focusing on nurturing a child’s authentic strengths and critical thinking skills will better equip them for success and well-being in any environment.

Foster a Growth Mindset

Encouraging a growth mindset is really important. This means teaching kids to see challenges and failures as chances to learn and grow. When children have this mindset, they become more resilient(means being able to recover quickly from difficulties or adapt well to challenges and changes). They learn to tackle tough situations without having to be sneaky or manipulative. Instead of just focusing on getting by, they focus on learning and improving.

Recognize the Value of Authenticity

For instance: Neha noticed a colleague was jealous of her projects. Instead of getting defensive , stressed or gossiping, Neha dealt with it by offering to work together and share her ideas . Neha also highlight and praise her colleague’s skills and contributions, fostering a more positive relationship. Staying focused on her work and avoiding drama help her maintain credibility and respect in the workplace.

Encouraging kids to be themselves, instead of copying tricky behaviors they see around them, can lead to happier and more fulfilling lives. Being true to who they are helps them build real, meaningful relationships and a strong sense of self-worth. When children learn to appreciate their own unique qualities, they’re better equipped to face life’s challenges with honesty and confidence

Encouraging kids to be themselves, instead of copying tricky behaviors they see around them, can lead to happier and more fulfilling lives. Being true to who they are helps them build real, meaningful relationships and a strong sense of self-worth. When children learn to appreciate their own unique qualities, they’re better equipped to face life’s challenges with honesty and confidence

Educate on Ethical and Empathetic Behaviour

Teaching children about ethics and empathy helps them appreciate the importance of honesty and kindness in their interactions. Instead of learning to manipulate or outsmart others, children who understand ethical behavior are better equipped to build strong relationships and make decisions based on their values. This solid foundation supports their long-term success and well-being, rather than fostering fear about survival.

Cracking the Code: How to Weigh Guilt ?

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Guilt of Right & Wrong

We should not just get rid of emotions as they contain valuable information that guides and grows us if approached correctly and without resistance or judgment.
This goes for any emotion. Be it shame, fear, anxiety, apathy, anger, joy, courage, sadness, grief and guilt. Here’s how you approach guilt the healthy way :

Understand the Purpose

The whole purpose of guilt is to make us aware when we are behaving and acting out of character, when we are losing or compromising our integrity and when we did something wrong or hurt someone else. So, when we feel guilty, it’s a sign that our moral compass is still working .
Discover and reflect on guilt nature . Dive deep into the heart of guilt and discover whether it is a friend or foe in your life. Explore the difference between rational and irrational guilt, and learn how to distinguish your emotions. #Discover how to untangle the complexities of guilt and understand the underlying reasons for your feelings.

Rational Guilt

It’s a feeling of remorse and regret that we experience when we really screwed up or when whatever we said or did directly caused harm to other. I.e. when you cheated on someone or physically hurt them.
This is the type of guilt we are supposed to act on through apologizing, improving our #behaviour and committing to growth.
Those feelings of remorse and regret are supposed to hold you accountable and show you areas where you’re not acting in accordance to who you think you are and who you want to be. When you act on this guilt, it greatly helps to forgive yourself and to let it go.

Irrational Guilt

Irrational Guilt is based on low #Self-Esteem and experienced when you take responsibility for things you didn’t do and aren’t responsible for at all. For instance, when you feel guilty for ending a relationship that was toxic to both you and the other. Why isn’t it productive to feel guilty for ending it? Because you’ve been real and did what you thought was best for you and them.

Never apologize or feel guilty for being real !


This type of guilt has to be approached with a focus on building stronger boundaries. On reminding yourself what you can and cannot control, what you are responsible for and what you aren’t responsible for.

Forgive Yourself

It can be very difficult to forgive yourself when you are really screwed up and know for a fact that whatever suffering someone else experiences is the by product and consequence of your words, actions, decisions and behaviours.

However, as long as you are committed to personal growth, genuinely apologize and improve your behaviour, it’s safe to forgive yourself for and grow through past mistakes since you hold yourself accountable and fully understand why the thing you said or did was wrong.

Call it guilt, fear, anger, or hatred – essentially, it means your thoughts and emotions are working against you – Sadhguru

As for the other person that got hurt, you cannot control if and when they accept your apology. They may never forgive you or they may find the space in their heart to let go of the past and move on.

However, if they do the latter, it doesn’t mean they will take you back. All it means is that they freed themselves from the resentment that kept poisoning them. #Practice mindfulness techniques to help you detach from your thoughts and emotions

By Guest Author: Daniel Subk

Why Positive Thinking Sometimes Fails: Unveiling The Truth Behind The Law Of Attraction

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Explore Why Positive Thinking Doesn’t Always Yield Expected Results

Why does it seem like positive thinking sometimes backfires, while a bit of negativity leads to unexpected success?

The myth popularized by the Law of Attraction suggests that simply thinking positively, will magically manifest desired outcomes, but the reality is much more complex.
The image reflects the idea that simply thinking positively to have six pack ab husband, like in the Law of Attraction, won’t necessarily bring such outcomes, highlighting the difference between wishful thinking does not yield expected results

Discover how the dynamic between our thoughts and results is more nuanced than we’re led to believe. By understanding this interplay, you can refine your approach, blending optimism with practical actions to turn both positive and negative situations to your advantage.

Why positive thinking seems to lead to negative outcomes and negative thinking to Positive outcomes ?

This thing involves various psychological, behavioral, and situational factors. Often, we disconnect from reality by viewing positive thinking as a magical solution. We might pressure ourselves by believing that positive thoughts alone should guarantee the outcomes we expect. This approach to positive thinking is misguided and unrealistic. Here’s why:

1. Unrealistic Expectations

Unreasonable Pressure:

When we tie our expectations of outcomes strictly to our positive thoughts, we put undue pressure on ourselves. This pressure can lead to heightened stress and anxiety, which may ultimately hinder our performance and reduce the likelihood of achieving the desired
outcome.

Disappointment:

If the outcome doesn’t meet our expectations, despite our positive thinking, we may experience significant disappointment. This can lead to a feeling of failure, even though the results may have been influenced by factors beyond our control.

3. Ignoring Practicalities

Real-World Challenges:

Positive thinking should complement practical action, not replace it. By focusing solely on positive thoughts, we may neglect the necessary planning, effort, and problem-solving
required to navigate real-world challenges effectively.

Overlooking Effort:

Positive thinking is not a substitute for hard work and practical strategies. Outcomes are influenced by many factors, including effort, skills, and external conditions. Simply
thinking positively without addressing these factors can lead to unmet expectations.

Realistic Optimism:

Positive thinking should involve a realistic assessment of what can be achieved. It’s about maintaining hope and motivation while also acknowledging and preparing for potential obstacles.

Action-Oriented:

Combine positive thinking with concrete actions and strategies. Focus on setting achievable goals, taking practical steps, and adapting to changing circumstances.

4. Balanced Approach

Realistic Optimism:

Positive thinking should involve a realistic assessment of what can be achieved. It’s about maintaining hope and motivation while also acknowledging and preparing for potential obstacles.

5. Effective Positive Thinking

Mindset with Action:

Positive thinking works best when it’s paired with proactive measures and realistic planning. It’s about fostering a positive outlook while remaining grounded in reality and addressing
the practical aspects of achieving goals.

Resilience and Adaptability:

Embrace a mindset that is resilient and adaptable. Understand that positive thinking alone won’t guarantee specific outcomes, but it can help you stay motivated and resilient in the face of challenges.

Conclusion

Believing that the positive thinking or  Law of Attraction will work without taking concrete actions is a common misconception. The Law of Attraction suggests that focusing on positive thoughts can help you manifest your desires, but it requires more than just wishful thinking. To achieve meaningful results, positive thinking must be paired with practical steps, realistic planning, and active effort.

Additionally, it’s important to approach your goals with flexibility, rather than rigidly expecting the outcome to align perfectly with your exact thoughts or desires. Being adaptable helps turn positive thinking into real success, rather than seeing any differences from your expectations as failures.

Breaking the Friendship Myth: A Critical Look at Loneliness and Self-Understanding

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Unveiling the Truth About Loneliness

Have you ever wondered why “sharing stuff with friends
& people” is so glorified?

Before we explore its perceived importance,
let’s ponder this: Could feelings of loneliness stem from holding back our
thoughts or from comparing ourselves to idealized versions on social media and
within social setup’s?

The fact is that a significant majority—about 90%—of people
lack deep self-awareness. Instead, many adhere to societal norms without
genuine introspection, a behaviour learned from an early age. This raises the
question: Could there be more to loneliness than meets the eye? Let’s explore
this further

Inherent Capability and Emotional Resilience

Human species possess the inherent capability to manage our
emotions independently, this vital skill is hardly taught effectively how to do
it right—at home, in school, or anywhere else. The result? We end up with a gap
in our emotional resilience, which leads to loneliness and rising cases of anxiety
& depression.

Early Conditioning and Social Interaction

From an early age, we’re told to talk and share with others
instead of focusing on self-reflection and writing things down on daily basis.
This wires our brains to think that without constant chatter and sharing, we
can’t tackle loneliness. Now, with the pressures of modern life, we’re short on
time and fewer interactions, which reinforces this belief leading us to think
that we cannot maintain mental well-being without regular sharing and
engagement with friends and peers.

Deeper Issues: Root Causes of Loneliness

I’m not here advocating we should cut ourselves off from
socializing altogether—connecting with others is important part being a social
animal. But we need to recognize that feelings of loneliness often stem from
deeper issues like lacking purpose, feeling unfulfilled in our daily routines
or lifestyle, and not having clear goals or passions to purse. These factors
contribute to the sense of monotony and joylessness that many experience in
their daily lives, especially after their thirties, when responsibilities
mainly revolve around family obligations. Nowadays, this phenomenon is
increasingly affecting youngsters as well due to many reasons like social media
and Comparison, Pressure to Succeed, Changing Family Dynamics, Lack of
Authentic Connections, Uncertainty and Future Anxiety Cultural Norms and
Expectations. Addressing these issues requires a holistic approach.

Strategies for Combatting Loneliness

To combat loneliness effectively, it’s imperative to address
its roots. This begins with introspective practices such as journaling,
exploring insightful books, Setting Clear Goals and Pursuing Passions, and
fostering positive and empowering self-dialogue.

Disempowering thoughts and beliefs:

I feel isolated because I don’t have friends to confide in.

My thoughts and feelings don’t matter since there’s no one
to listen.

I can’t find solutions to my problems because I have no one
to bounce ideas off.

I’m missing out on meaningful connections and experiences
because I don’t have close friends.

Without friends, life feels empty and lacking in purpose.

I struggle to express myself because I don’t have a
supportive social circle.

I feel disconnected from others and unable to relate to
people around me.

I’m destined to be lonely because I haven’t found anyone who
understands me.

I’m not worthy of friendships or meaningful relationships.

My happiness depends on having someone to share my life
with.

Positive and empowering self-dialogue:

I find true fulfilment by nurturing my inner peace and
self-awareness.

I trust in my own abilities to create joy and fulfilment in
my life.

I am complete and whole within myself, regardless of
external circumstance.

I embrace my independence and cherish the connections I do
have.

I am surrounded by love and support, even if I don’t always
see it.

These type of self-talks or affirmations can help shift the
focus away from disempowering beliefs about loneliness and encourage a positive
mindset towards self-worth, resilience, and attracting fulfilling relationships. (Technique 2))

By gaining clarity on our authentic selves and identifying
our fundamental needs & Personality type, we pave the way not only to
navigate loneliness but also to forge deeper, more meaningful connections.

Conclusion: Holistic Approach to Well-being

In essence, while social interaction has its
merits, true fulfilment lies in the balance between external connections and
internal self-reliance. By nurturing both, we embark on a journey towards
holistic personal growth and emotional well-being.

I encourage to begin by identifying the true sources of
loneliness—the root causes—and understanding your authentic self and core
needs.

This self-awareness is essential for effectively addressing
and navigating through feelings of loneliness.

So, how will you strike that perfect balance between
reaching out and looking within to live a fulfilling life, free from relying
solely on external validations? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

Why we ignore our fault and see fault in others? Where does our conscience come from?

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Exploring the Paradox: Ignoring Our Own Faults While
Critiquing Others

Have you ever noticed how easily we can spot flaws in others
while turning a blind eye to our own shortcomings? It’s a fascinating quirk of
human behaviour, reflecting deeper questions about our moral compass and
self-awareness. What drives this tendency to judge others more harshly than we
judge ourselves? Exploring these dynamics offers a window into the complexities
of human nature and the origins of our ethical beliefs. Let’s unravel this
intriguing phenomenon together and ponder how it shapes our interactions and
understanding of ourselves.

What Psychology says:

The reluctance to acknowledge our own faults often stems from a blend of psychological defences and social influences. Psychologically, admitting fault can threaten our self-image and ego(Identity). It requires confronting aspects of ourselves that may be uncomfortable or even painful to acknowledge. As a result, we may employ defence mechanisms such as denial or projection—attributing our own shortcomings onto others—to protect our fragile sense of self-worth.

How we do Protection of our ego’s.

Failures are our own doing. Do we agree that it often come from not understanding our own strengths or the effort needed to reach our goals? It’s tough on our ego, isn’t it? Habitually its easier for us to blame things like bad luck, fate, or other people because that way we don’t have to deal with a bruised ego (Personal and social identities).

#Blaming others might save your ego in the short term, but it can lead to more frequent failures, unnecessary anxiety and may put you into depression. That’s because we miss out on the chance to improve ourselves. Sure, working on ourselves doesn’t guarantee success every time, but it can definitely reduce the chances of failing.

The environment we grow up in plays a big role here. From a young age, we learn what’s acceptable and what’s not in our community. This often makes us more likely to shift the blame onto others instead of facing the consequences of our own actions.

On top of that, comparing ourselves to others complicates things. By focusing on others’ flaws, we might get a quick boost to our self-esteem, but this usually means we’re avoiding a genuine look at ourselves. Let’s be aware of these patterns and focus on taking responsibility for our own growth.

 

Spiritual Insight:

Because we’re so fixated on looking outward rather than inward, our minds find it easier to magnify the faults of others while remaining blind to our own. It’s like wearing glasses that only see imperfections in others, leaving our own flaws unnoticed in the blur. This brings to mind a famous quote by Sadhguru:


Your ability to see your own faults is very limited. Other people can see your faults much better. But their ability to see their faults is also very limited, so it evens out.  
(Sadhguru : Founder of Isha Foundation ) 

We need to change ourselves. We need to go from compulsive state to conscious state.

We need to become introvert to know the self.

Where Does Our Conscience Come From?

Our conscience—the inner voice that guides our moral decisions and judgments—develops through a more nuanced interplay of factors:

  • Developmental Stages: During our childhood and teenage years, we learn about morals from our parents, friends, and society. These early experiences build the foundation for our understanding of what is right and what is wrong.
  • Cultural and Social Influences: Cultural values and societal norms play a significant role in shaping our sense of right and wrong. They define what behaviour are seen as good or bad in different societies. These influences differ greatly between cultures and affect how people view and deal with moral challenges
  • Innate Moral Capacity: Some theorists argue for an innate moral sense—a foundational predisposition towards empathy, fairness, and altruism that underpins our conscience. This inherent capacity interacts with our experiences and upbringing to mold our ethical reasoning.
  • Reflection and Experience: As we navigate life’s complexities, our conscience evolves through reflection on our actions and their consequences. This introspective process allows us to refine our moral judgment and develop a deeper understanding of our ethical responsibilities towards ourselves and others.

The Path to Personal Growth

Acknowledging our tendency to overlook faults in ourselves while scrutinizing others is the first step towards personal growth and ethical maturity. It demands cultivating self-awareness, humility, and a willingness to engage in honest self-reflection.

By understanding the origins of our conscience—rooted in both innate capacities and external influences—we gain insight into the complexities of moral decision-making. It underscores the importance of nurturing a robust moral compass that guides us towards integrity, empathy, and accountability in our interactions with the world.

In conclusion, unravelling the intricacies of why we ignore our faults and where our conscience originates invites us to explore the depths of human nature and the transformative power of self-awareness. It challenges us to strive towards a more compassionate and conscientious existence—one where introspection and empathy pave the way towards personal fulfilment and harmonious relationships.

Let us embark on this journey of self-discovery and ethical inquiry, for therein lies the key to a more enlightened understanding of ourselves and our place in the world.

Techniques for Overcoming Bias

Overcoming the tendency to overlook our own faults while scrutinizing others requires conscious effort and a commitment to personal growth. Here are two powerful techniques that can be effective in addressing the tendency to overlook faults in ourselves:

  1. Reframing: This technique involves changing the way you mentally represent a situation or behavior. When you find yourself criticizing others, consciously reframe the situation by considering how you might be prone to similar behaviours or attitudes. This helps to balance your perspective and promote self-awareness.
  2. Model Questioning: The self-questioning encourages asking specific questions to clarify and challenge limiting beliefs or generalizations. When you notice yourself making sweeping judgments about others, use Model questions such as “What specifically do I mean by that?” or “How do I know this to be true?” This helps to uncover underlying assumptions and encourages more accurate and balanced thinking.

In conclusion, while we are born with a foundational sense of right and wrong, our upbringing and societal norms play crucial roles in refining our moral compass. Some teachings may emphasize that “we are all different, and our choices shape our lives,” while others may imply that “you must be perfect or you are perfect, and every outcome of your efforts should be flawless.” Recognizing these biases is essential for personal growth and ethical development. By cultivating self-awareness, humility, and a willingness to honestly reflect on ourselves, we can begin to overcome these tendencies. Understanding the origins of our conscience offers profound insights into human nature and underscores the importance of nurturing qualities such as integrity, empathy, and accountability in our interactions. This journey of self-discovery and ethical exploration invites us to strive for a more compassionate and conscientious existence, fostering not only personal fulfilment but also harmonious relationships with others. Let us embrace this journey as an opportunity to deepen our understanding of ourselves and our place in the world.

Q11: Is there a connection between #motivation and #laziness? Can someone be naturally motivated without external factors?

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Answer: Motivation
and laziness can be viewed as opposite ends of a spectrum when it comes to
human behaviour.

Natural Motivation
comes when your values are aligned well with your belief and core human needs.

If your core need is
love & connection ,you may naturally feel motivated to meet and greet
people. Take part in social setup’s .

If your belief is
“Money is more important than #Health” than you would never inclined to join
#gym/ #yoga classes etc.

 

Q10: What is the difference between saying "I'm intelligent" and "I'm smart"?

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Answer: 

#Intelligent suggests
a broader range of #cognitive abilities and a capacity for understanding
complex concepts.

#Smart often
emphasizes quickness or sharpness in understanding or dealing with situations.

Therefore, someone who
says “I’m intelligent” might be emphasizing their overall cognitive
abilities and capacity for learning and reasoning, while someone who says
“I’m smart” might be highlighting their quick understanding or practical
wisdom in various contexts. Both terms imply intelligence but with slightly
different nuances.

Q9: Is anger an emotion or simply a reflection of an emotion?

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Answer:  Anger manifests both in actions and
words, making it a powerful emotion. 

#Emotions contain
valuable information that guides and grows us if approached correctly and
without resistance or judgment.

Without emotions, we
cannot feel good or bad in our lives. Consider this: 

To truly appreciate
happiness, we must first understand the depths of sadness. To truly
understand the positive, we must first feel the negative.

Explore the post for deeper insights
into the understanding of emotion.

The Hidden Force Steering Your Thoughts and Emotions

Q8: How can I learn to say no without feeling guilty and prioritize my well-being?

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Answer:

  • Recognize Your Limits: Understand
    that you have limits to your time, energy, and resources. Saying no is
    necessary to protect these limits and prevent burnout.

Use “I”
Statements: When declining a request, use “I” statements to take
ownership of your decision. For example, say, “I’m unable to commit to
this right now” instead of making excuses or blaming external factors.

  • Offer Alternatives (If
    Appropriate):     If you feel comfortable, offer alternatives or compromises
    when saying no. This can help soften the impact and show that you’re still
    willing to help within your limits.
  • Reflect on Your
    Values:     Regularly reflect on your values and goals in life. This can
    reinforce your commitment to prioritizing what matters most to you and saying
    no to distractions or obligations that don’t align.

With practice &
Patience one can get comfortable saying “No” and prioritizing yourself. 

Also Do practice exercise “In
my control zone /out of control zone” , and this will help with getting over
guilt feeling . Technique
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