Category: Mindfulness

Hey everyone! Today, I want to dive into a different side of guilt. Lately, I’ve been feeling guilty for not finishing tasks on time or for choosing to say “No” and relax instead of going out. That’s when it hit me—guilt often ties itself to wrongdoing, but it doesn’t always have to

Have you ever said sorry even though it wasn’t your fault? Or felt bad for saying “no” just to look after yourself? That’s guilt, and it can pop up even when we haven’t actually done something wrong ourselves

Guilt doesn’t always mean you did something bad. Sometimes, it comes from doing something good, being kind, or just trying to be the best version of yourself.

Guilt is a social emotion. It acts like an internal compass, guiding us to “do the right thing.” The problem? Sometimes this compass becomes overly sensitive. Even when there’s no real wrongdoing, your brain may fire off guilt signals just to be safe.

Let’s look at a few common moments:

• You turn down a friend’s invite because you’re exhausted — but then you feel guilty the whole evening.
• Take a day off from work after weeks of stress but can’t stop thinking, “Am I being lazy?”
• Putting off a task because you’re mentally drained, then feel guilty for procrastinating, even though rest is what you needed.
• You enjoy being home working on your goals but then feel guilty for not spending time with family or friends.
• You’re doing your best and slowly moving forward with your goals, but feel guilty for not making faster progress or for not being good enough.

None of these actions are wrong — yet the guilt still creeps in. Why does that happen?

Psychologists say guilt isn’t always about doing something bad. Sometimes it’s about how much we care, how we were raised, or how we judge ourselves. This kind of guilt is called “unnecessary” or “false guilt.”

Let’s explore in detail

Why Do We Feel “False Guilt” ?

1. Unrealistic Expectations and Perfectionism

Sometimes we place unrealistic pressure on ourselves to be perfect. When we fall short of our own high standards—often shaped by social comparison and fear of judgment—we may feel guilty, even if we’re genuinely doing our best.

We live in a culture that often glorifies hustle, speed, and constant productivity. If you’re working hard but not moving “fast enough,” you might start feeling like you’re failing

This disconnect between effort and perceived success can create a low-level guilt that simmers beneath the surface.

For example, if you’re working hard but not moving fast enough, you might think you’re failing, even though you’re making steady progress. It’s a harsh mental trap: You feel like you’re not doing enough even when you’re doing all you can.

2. Empathy and Caring Too Much

Highly empathetic people often absorb others’ emotions. If you’re sensitive to the feelings and needs of those around you, it’s easy to mistake their discomfort as something you caused—even if you didn’t.

This kind of emotional misattribution can leave you feeling falsely guilty when you’ve done nothing wrong.

For example, saying “No” to a friend, colleague, relatives or taking time for yourself might make you feel guilty because you’re worried about letting them down, even if it’s what you needed.

3. Upbringing and Learned Behaviour’s

Many times, we pick up guilt from the way we have been raised. If we grew up in an environment where guilt was often used to control or motivate us, we might carry that with us into adulthood. This can make us feel guilty even when we’re doing something perfectly fine.

For example, you might have been told you were “good” only when you did what others wanted and made to feel bad when you said “no” or tried to do things your own way. As an adult, this can translate into chronic guilt—especially in moments of rest, success, or independence.

4. Judging Ourselves Harshly

Some people are naturally more self-critical. They might constantly feel like they’re not doing enough, or that they’re falling short, even when they’re not.

This negative self-judgment leads to false guilt that isn’t based on reality, but on how harshly they view themselves.

5. Society and Cultural Pressures

Society often has expectations about how we should behave, what we should achieve, and how we should feel. When we fall short of these standards—like feeling guilty for saying “no” to additional work because you’re already occupied or feeling guilty for prioritizing your own goals over others’—we carry unnecessary guilt

6. Struggling With Internalized Beliefs

We all want to succeed, improve, and be our best selves. We also set goals for what we should achieve by certain ages. But sometimes, these beliefs can make us feel guilty if we think we’re “not doing enough” or “not moving fast enough,” even when we’re doing well. It’s like wanting to be perfect, but realizing that progress takes time.

These beliefs can make us feel guilty or afraid just for living our lives.

How to Cope with Unexplained Guilt

Pause and Assess:

Ask yourself, “Did I actually do something wrong, or am I just feeling responsible for things I can’t control?”

Reframe the Thought:

If the guilt isn’t based on facts, remind yourself that feelings aren’t always accurate. For example, if you feel guilty for not getting things done because you were feeling lazy or tired, instead of beating yourself up, try reframing it. Say, “It’s okay to take a short break. I’ll get back to the task in 30 minutes and do my best then.”

This allows you to acknowledge your need for a break without letting guilt control your actions.

Practice Self-Compassion, but Stay Honest:

Speak to yourself the way you would to a friend—with kindness and understanding. But be careful not to confuse self-compassion with avoidance. Sometimes we say things like “I’m just tired” or “I’m overwhelmed” and use that as a reason to put off important tasks or goals.

Instead of accepting those thoughts right away, pause and ask yourself, “Is this truly how I feel, or am I making an excuse?” Listen to that quiet inner voice—it often knows our real truth.

4. Talk to a Professional:

Chronic, unexplained guilt could be a sign of deeper issues like depression, anxiety, or unresolved trauma. A therapist can help you explore the root causes.

We all want to feel joyful, happy, and excited — happiness is what makes us feel alive and energized. Isn’t it ? So, why is it that so many people these days feel unhappy? The truth is, the reasons behind unhappiness are created by ourselves. Don’t be shocked — it’s a reality many of us overlook! So, what is it that makes happiness so hard to attain? Let’s dig into why this happens.

“I’ll be happy when I get my first iPhone, car, or house?” The excitement is real when you finally get it, but after a week or so, the thrill fades, and you find yourself searching for the next thing to bring happiness. You start thinking, “Maybe once I travel to that dream destination,” or “When I get that promotion at work, that’ll make me happy.” It’s a cycle many of us fall into — thinking happiness comes from things like friends, parties, trips, gifts, or relationships, only to realize it doesn’t last.

Now the question is: What is happiness if this isn’t it? After all, everyone is doing it, and they seem happy. So, what’s the catch?

If material things, accomplishments, and experiences don’t bring lasting joy, then what truly makes us happy? It seems like everyone is on this same path, chasing after the next big thing, and they appear happy while doing it. But when does it end?

Is there something more to happiness than just a series of achievements and possessions?

What is it that makes happiness so hard to attain?

1. Problem of If-then” thinking

Many of us are living in a constant state of “if-then” thinking. We tell ourselves, “If I get that promotion, then I’ll be happy,” or “If I go on that vacation, then I’ll be happy.” We attach our happiness to external outcomes, thinking that achieving or acquiring something will bring us lasting joy. But this mindset only leads to disappointment when the happiness doesn’t last. We might feel good for a while, but soon, we’re back in the cycle of seeking the next big thing.

2. Unrealistic Expectations

We live in a world of constant comparisons, more than ever before. Before the internet, life was simpler and we felt more content because we focused on our own lives, not comparing ourselves to others. Now, social media, ads, and society make it look like there’s a perfect life that guarantees happiness. But the truth is, no life is perfect. Those “happy” couples on Instagram or Facebook sometimes spend an hour arguing just to get the perfect selfie on vacation. The influencers making millions today worked hard for years to get there. Even the influencers wearing stylish outfits and attending parties are dealing with stress, sleep deprivation, and the pressure of constantly planning new content. This is the real story behind their “happy” lives. When we set unrealistically high expectations, we set ourselves up for disappointment. We often forget that true happiness doesn’t come from perfection — it comes from accepting life and our people as they are, not how we want them to be.

3. The Pursuit of External Validation

Another major reason for the unhappiness we all feel today is our constant search for external validation. — whether it’s success at work, approval from others, material possessions like gifts or lavish celebrations to post on social media, or romantic relationships .

Sometimes, we seek validation to cover up our unconscious fears of what others think of our lives — like feeling “poor,” not being married into a wealthy family, or not having a high-paying partner. We crave approval through likes on social media, compliments from friends or our partner, or recognition at work and social events.

While a bit of validation can lift our mood and give us a dopamine boost, relying on it too much leaves us feeling empty when that feeling fades. That’s why we constantly search for new things to make us happy.

When our happiness depends on what others think of us, like show off our success with job titles, bank balances, or our social status, we lose control of our own joy.

All such things can bring joy, they’re not sustainable sources of happiness. External validation often comes with the risk of being dependent on factors outside of our control. Real happiness comes from within — from self-acceptance, resilience, and a positive mindset, not the approval of others.

4. Fear of Change

Change is inevitable, but it often comes with discomfort. Whether it’s a new job, a relationship, or relocating to a different place, change introduces uncertainty, which can lead to anxiety. Many people cling to old patterns and routines because they offer a sense of safety, even if those habits no longer bring happiness. This could include surrounding ourselves with lazy, unproductive friends, toxic relationships, a mentally draining workplace. However, embracing change is crucial for growth and finding new ways to achieve happiness.

5. Negative Thought Patterns

Many people have negative thoughts, like feeling unsure of themselves, thinking things will go wrong, or overthinking situations. These thoughts can make it hard to see the good things in life. As I said, sometimes we are the reason we can’t find lasting happiness. We often get stuck in old habits and routines because they feel safe, even if they don’t make us happy. These habits might include being lazy, putting things off, always comparing ourselves to others, trying too hard to please people, finding it hard to say “no,” or having a messy routine that makes us feel like we never have enough time. These things can stop us from enjoying life and feeling truly happy.

6. Past Trauma or Negative Experiences

Unresolved emotional pain from the past, like bad memories or images of hurtful events, can make it hard to feel happy. For example, if someone went through a tough experience, like a divorce, they might have bad memories or images in their mind of arguments, sadness, or things that hurt them.

These thoughts can stick with them for a long time and make them feel sad, scared, or worried, even when things are better now, the pain from the past can still affect how someone feels. They might suddenly feel sad or upset for no clear reason. This can happen because the bad memories or feelings are still there, even if life has improved.

Sometimes, they might even start to self-sabotage, meaning they might do things that hurt their own happiness without realizing it, like pushing people away or not trying their best. This happens because the old pain makes it hard for them to fully trust that things can be good or to believe they deserve happiness. Until they can face these memories and heal from them, it can be hard for them to feel truly happy.

7. Lack of Purpose or Fulfilment:

Another major reason for feeling unhappy is the lack of purpose in our lives. Many people follow a set path that society expects—like getting a good job at 24, marrying by 28, owning a house and car by 30, having kids, and then raising them until the end of life.

This is a common pattern many people copy from others, without considering that everyone is unique and has different needs, challenges, and dreams.

This deep-rooted belief in following a “one-size-fits-all” life plan can make us feel disconnected from our true selves. We often struggle to find meaning or fulfilment in our daily lives because we’re not living according to our own values and desires.

Without personal or professional goals that resonate with who we really are, we may feel empty or lost, which can lead to a sense of unhappiness

8. Mental Health Struggles

Conditions like depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges can make happiness feel far away or impossible to reach. These struggles can change the way we see things, making it hard to feel joy or find meaning in life. Because of this, Some people turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms like alcohol, smoking, scrolling through Netflix or social media, or even using drugs.

These substances may give a quick, temporary feeling of happiness or a “dopamine rush,” but it’s fake and short-lived. In the long run, these habits only make things worse and can deepen feelings of emptiness or sadness, preventing true happiness from ever being fully experienced.

Instead of helping us heal or find true happiness, these habits can make it harder to deal with our problems and can even make us feel more disconnected from our real needs and desires.

9. Perfectionism

Striving for perfection in all aspects of life can create constant dissatisfaction. The pressure to “get everything right” can lead to burnout, stress, and a sense that happiness is always just out of reach.

LASTING HAPINESS IS IN OUR OWN HAND, YES THATS TRUE!

Attaining lasting happiness is a journey that involves developing habits, changing mindsets, and taking care of our mental and emotional health. Here are some self-help tools to help you work towards lasting happiness:

1. Practice Gratitude

• Tool: Keep a gratitude journal.
• How: Write down three things you’re grateful for every day. They can be big or small, like a nice meal or spending time with a friend. This process helps reverse the brain’s natural tendency toward negative thinking or negative self-talk. Over time, this practice can rewire your brain to focus more on the positive, creating a healthier, more optimistic and lasting happiness feeling & outlook on life.
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2. Surround Yourself with Positivity

• Tool: Create a positive environment.
• How: Spend time with people who lift you up. join groups and community working toward self growth. Limit your time with people who are negative or toxic. Also, try to create a positive, inspiring space in your home or workspace by adding things that make you happy, like photos, plants, or artwork.

3. Sleep Well

• Tool: Establish a bedtime routine.
• How: Aim for 7-8 hours of quality sleep each night. Create a calming routine before bed, such as reading (no phone), taking a warm bath, or practicing relaxation techniques, listening sleep frequency music. Good sleep is essential for mental clarity, restoration of neural patterns in brain and emotional stability.

4. Write Small Wins

• Tool: Acknowledge progress.
• How: Take time to write down your everyday small achievements. Small wins are the little successes and positive steps we take each day that add up over time. They might seem insignificant at first, but they can have a big impact on our happiness and confidence. Whether it’s finishing a task, taking a moment for self-care, listening to book summery on you tube, using of microwave first time ,wearing western first time in public or overcoming any other small challenge, celebrating these small wins helps us feel accomplished ,confident and motivated. Recognizing small wins shifts our focus from what we haven’t done yet to what we’ve already achieved, boosting our sense of progress and well-being. Every little step forward is a victory that brings us closer to lasting happiness.

CONCLUSION:

In essence, happiness is often challenged by a combination of inner struggles, external pressures, and mental barriers. Understanding and addressing these factors can help foster greater contentment.

Remember, lasting happiness comes from within. It’s about building habits that support your well-being, letting go of negative patterns, and focusing on what makes you feel good not to others . Be patient with yourself as you take these steps, and know that happiness is a journey, not a destination.

Have you ever wondered why “sharing stuff with friends & family” is so glorified?

Before we explore its perceived importance, let’s ponder this: Could feelings of loneliness, perhaps, stem from holding back our thoughts or from comparing ourselves to idealized versions on social media and within social setups?

The fact is that a significant majority—about 90%—of people lack deep self-awareness. Instead, many adhere to societal norms without genuine introspection, a behaviour learned from an early age.

Consequently, this raises the question: Could there be more to loneliness than meets the eye? Let’s explore this further.

Inherent Capability and Emotional Resilience

The human species possesses the inherent capability to manage our emotions independently. However, this vital skill is hardly taught effectively—whether at home, in school, or anywhere else.

As a result, we end up with a gap in our emotional resilience, which ultimately leads to loneliness and rising cases of anxiety and depression.

This happens because we are constantly looking for people to share with and spend time with to overcome our loneliness. However, in today’s digital age, everyone is busy with their own lives.

Early Conditioning and Social Interaction

From an early age, we’re told to talk and share with others instead of focusing on self-reflection and writing things down on a daily basis.

As a result, this wires our brains to think that without constant chatter and sharing, we can’t tackle loneliness.

Moreover, with the pressures of modern life, we’re short on time and have fewer interactions, which further reinforces this belief, leading us to think that we cannot maintain mental well-being without regular meeting ,sharing and engagement with friends, family and peers.

Root Causes of Loneliness

I’m not here advocating that we should cut ourselves off from socializing altogether—connecting with others is an important part of being a social animal.

However, we need to recognize that feelings of loneliness often stem from deeper issues, such as lacking purpose, feeling unfulfilled in our daily routines or lifestyle, and not having clear goals or passions to pursue.

These factors contribute to the sense of monotony and joylessness that many experience in their daily lives, especially after their thirties, when responsibilities mainly revolve around family obligations.

Furthermore, this phenomenon is increasingly affecting youngsters as well due to various reasons like social media, instant gratification and comparison, pressure to succeed, changing family dynamics, lack of authentic connections, uncertainty and future anxiety, and cultural norms and expectations.

Addressing these issues, therefore, requires a holistic approach.

Strategies for Combatting Loneliness

To combat loneliness effectively, it’s imperative to address its roots. This begins with introspective practices such as journaling, exploring insightful books, setting clear goals, pursuing passions, and most important fostering positive and empowering self-talks.

Disempowering thoughts and beliefs:

• I feel isolated because I don’t have friends to confide in.
• My thoughts and feelings don’t matter since there’s no one to listen.
• I can’t find solutions to my problems because I have no one to bounce ideas off.
• I’m missing out on meaningful connections and experiences because I don’t have close friends.
• Without friends, life feels empty and lacking in purpose.
• I struggle to express myself because I don’t have a supportive social circle.
• I feel disconnected from others and unable to relate to people around me.
• I’m destined to be lonely because I haven’t found anyone who understands me.
• I’m not worthy of friendships or meaningful relationships.
• My happiness depends on having someone to share my life with.

Positive and empowering self-talks:

• I find true fulfilment by nurturing my inner peace and self-awareness.
• I trust in my own abilities to create joy and fulfilment in my life.
• I am complete and whole within myself, regardless of external circumstance.
• I embrace my independence and cherish the connections I do have.
• I am surrounded by love and support, even if I don’t always see it.

These type of self-talks or affirmations can help shift the focus away from disempowering beliefs about loneliness and encourage a positive mindset towards self-worth, resilience, and attracting fulfilling relationships. (Technique 2))

By gaining clarity on our authentic selves and identifying our fundamental needs & Personality type, we pave the way not only to navigate loneliness but also to forge deeper, more meaningful connections.

Conclusion: Holistic Approach to Well-being

In essence, while social interaction has its merits, true fulfilment lies in the balance between external connections and internal self-reliance.

By nurturing both, we embark on a journey towards holistic personal growth and emotional well-being.

Therefore, I encourage you to begin by identifying the true sources of loneliness—the root causes—and understanding your authentic self and core needs.

Ultimately, this self-awareness is essential for effectively addressing and navigating through feelings of loneliness.

Ever felt like your greatest qualities are being misunderstood or even undervalued? It’s a common experience: society often distorts our strengths into weaknesses, creating self-doubt and demotivation. Many people experience this when their simplicity is perceived as naivety in a world that often values cunning and complexity. The belief that “Being simple” equates to being too naïve to survive is a common distortion and wrong belief of child development by parents.

Being simple is not a crime—it’s a valuable trait that should be embraced, not dismissed. The challenge often lies in changing societal and familial perceptions that equate simplicity with naivety or inadequacy. Here’s how to navigate this and shift these perceptions:

Misguided Parenting Beliefs

Parents should prioritize fostering genuine intelligence and emotional resilience in their children, rather than trying to mold them into reflections of a cunning world. This approach often stems from misguided fears about survival and the erroneous belief that duplicating the world’s complexity is essential. Instead, focusing on nurturing a child’s authentic strengths and critical thinking skills will better equip them for success and well-being in any environment.

Foster a Growth Mindset

Encouraging a growth mindset is really important. This means teaching kids to see challenges and failures as chances to learn and grow. When children have this mindset, they become more resilient(means being able to recover quickly from difficulties or adapt well to challenges and changes). They learn to tackle tough situations without having to be sneaky or manipulative. Instead of just focusing on getting by, they focus on learning and improving.

Recognize the Value of Authenticity

For instance: Neha noticed a colleague was jealous of her projects. Instead of getting defensive , stressed or gossiping, Neha dealt with it by offering to work together and share her ideas . Neha also highlight and praise her colleague’s skills and contributions, fostering a more positive relationship. Staying focused on her work and avoiding drama help her maintain credibility and respect in the workplace.

Encouraging kids to be themselves, instead of copying tricky behaviors they see around them, can lead to happier and more fulfilling lives. Being true to who they are helps them build real, meaningful relationships and a strong sense of self-worth. When children learn to appreciate their own unique qualities, they’re better equipped to face life’s challenges with honesty and confidence

Encouraging kids to be themselves, instead of copying tricky behaviors they see around them, can lead to happier and more fulfilling lives. Being true to who they are helps them build real, meaningful relationships and a strong sense of self-worth. When children learn to appreciate their own unique qualities, they’re better equipped to face life’s challenges with honesty and confidence

Educate on Ethical and Empathetic Behaviour

Teaching children about ethics and empathy helps them appreciate the importance of honesty and kindness in their interactions. Instead of learning to manipulate or outsmart others, children who understand ethical behavior are better equipped to build strong relationships and make decisions based on their values. This solid foundation supports their long-term success and well-being, rather than fostering fear about survival.

Guilt of Right & Wrong

We should not just get rid of emotions as they contain valuable information that guides and grows us if approached correctly and without resistance or judgment.
This goes for any emotion. Be it shame, fear, anxiety, apathy, anger, joy, courage, sadness, grief and guilt. Here’s how you approach guilt the healthy way :

Understand the Purpose

The whole purpose of guilt is to make us aware when we are behaving and acting out of character, when we are losing or compromising our integrity and when we did something wrong or hurt someone else. So, when we feel guilty, it’s a sign that our moral compass is still working .
Discover and reflect on guilt nature . Dive deep into the heart of guilt and discover whether it is a friend or foe in your life. Explore the difference between rational and irrational guilt, and learn how to distinguish your emotions. #Discover how to untangle the complexities of guilt and understand the underlying reasons for your feelings.

Rational Guilt

It’s a feeling of remorse and regret that we experience when we really screwed up or when whatever we said or did directly caused harm to other. I.e. when you cheated on someone or physically hurt them.
This is the type of guilt we are supposed to act on through apologizing, improving our #behaviour and committing to growth.
Those feelings of remorse and regret are supposed to hold you accountable and show you areas where you’re not acting in accordance to who you think you are and who you want to be. When you act on this guilt, it greatly helps to forgive yourself and to let it go.

Irrational Guilt

Irrational Guilt is based on low #Self-Esteem and experienced when you take responsibility for things you didn’t do and aren’t responsible for at all. For instance, when you feel guilty for ending a relationship that was toxic to both you and the other. Why isn’t it productive to feel guilty for ending it? Because you’ve been real and did what you thought was best for you and them.

Never apologize or feel guilty for being real !

This type of guilt has to be approached with a focus on building stronger boundaries. On reminding yourself what you can and cannot control, what you are responsible for and what you aren’t responsible for.

Forgive Yourself

It can be very difficult to forgive yourself when you are really screwed up and know for a fact that whatever suffering someone else experiences is the by product and consequence of your words, actions, decisions and behaviours.

However, as long as you are committed to personal growth, genuinely apologize and improve your behaviour, it’s safe to forgive yourself for and grow through past mistakes since you hold yourself accountable and fully understand why the thing you said or did was wrong.

Call it guilt, fear, anger, or hatred – essentially, it means your thoughts and emotions are working against you – Sadhguru

As for the other person that got hurt, you cannot control if and when they accept your apology. They may never forgive you or they may find the space in their heart to let go of the past and move on.

However, if they do the latter, it doesn’t mean they will take you back. All it means is that they freed themselves from the resentment that kept poisoning them. #Practice mindfulness techniques to help you detach from your thoughts and emotions

By Guest Author: Daniel Subk

Explore Why Positive Thinking Doesn’t Always Yield Expected Results

Why does it seem like positive thinking sometimes backfires, while a bit of negativity leads to unexpected success?

The myth popularized by the Law of Attraction suggests that simply thinking positively, will magically manifest desired outcomes, but the reality is much more complex.

Discover how the dynamic between our thoughts and results is more nuanced than we’re led to believe. By understanding this interplay, you can refine your approach, blending optimism with practical actions to turn both positive and negative situations to your advantage.

Why positive thinking seems to lead to negative outcomes and negative thinking to Positive outcomes ?

This thing involves various psychological, behavioral, and situational factors. Often, we disconnect from reality by viewing positive thinking as a magical solution. We might pressure ourselves by believing that positive thoughts alone should guarantee the outcomes we expect. This approach to positive thinking is misguided and unrealistic. Here’s why:

1. Unrealistic Expectations

Unreasonable Pressure:

When we tie our expectations of outcomes strictly to our positive thoughts, we put undue pressure on ourselves. This pressure can lead to heightened stress and anxiety, which may ultimately hinder our performance and reduce the likelihood of achieving the desired
outcome.

Disappointment:

If the outcome doesn’t meet our expectations, despite our positive thinking, we may experience significant disappointment. This can lead to a feeling of failure, even though the results may have been influenced by factors beyond our control.

3. Ignoring Practicalities

Real-World Challenges:

Positive thinking should complement practical action, not replace it. By focusing solely on positive thoughts, we may neglect the necessary planning, effort, and problem-solving
required to navigate real-world challenges effectively.

Overlooking Effort:

Positive thinking is not a substitute for hard work and practical strategies. Outcomes are influenced by many factors, including effort, skills, and external conditions. Simply
thinking positively without addressing these factors can lead to unmet expectations.

Realistic Optimism:

Positive thinking should involve a realistic assessment of what can be achieved. It’s about maintaining hope and motivation while also acknowledging and preparing for potential obstacles.

Action-Oriented:

Combine positive thinking with concrete actions and strategies. Focus on setting achievable goals, taking practical steps, and adapting to changing circumstances.

4. Balanced Approach

Realistic Optimism:

Positive thinking should involve a realistic assessment of what can be achieved. It’s about maintaining hope and motivation while also acknowledging and preparing for potential obstacles.

5. Effective Positive Thinking

Mindset with Action:

Positive thinking works best when it’s paired with proactive measures and realistic planning. It’s about fostering a positive outlook while remaining grounded in reality and addressing
the practical aspects of achieving goals.

Resilience and Adaptability:

Embrace a mindset that is resilient and adaptable. Understand that positive thinking alone won’t guarantee specific outcomes, but it can help you stay motivated and resilient in the face of challenges.

Conclusion

Believing that the positive thinking or  Law of Attraction will work without taking concrete actions is a common misconception. The Law of Attraction suggests that focusing on positive thoughts can help you manifest your desires, but it requires more than just wishful thinking. To achieve meaningful results, positive thinking must be paired with practical steps, realistic planning, and active effort.

Additionally, it’s important to approach your goals with flexibility, rather than rigidly expecting the outcome to align perfectly with your exact thoughts or desires. Being adaptable helps turn positive thinking into real success, rather than seeing any differences from your expectations as failures.

What Is The Right Way To Tackle Getting Rid of Guilt?

We’re not supposed to just get rid of emotions as they contain valuable information that guides and grows us if approached correctly and without resistance or judgment. This goes for any emotion. Be it shame, fear, anxiety, apathy, anger, joy, courage, sadness, grief and guilt. Here’s how you approach guilt the healthy way:

Understand the Purpose

The whole purpose of guilt is to make us aware when we are behaving and acting out of character, when we are losing or compromising our integrity and when we did something wrong or hurt someone else. So, when we feel guilty, it’s a sign that our moral compass is still working.

Discover and Reflect on Guilt Nature

Dive deep into the heart of guilt and discover whether it is a friend or foe in your life.

Explore the difference between rational and irrational guilt, and learn how to distinguish your emotions. #Discover how to untangle the complexities of guilt and understand the underlying reasons for your feelings.

Rational Guilt

It’s a feeling of remorse and regret that we experience when we really screwed up or when, whatever we said or did directly caused harm on another. I.e. when you cheated on someone or physically hurt them. This is the type of guilt we are supposed to act on through apologizing, improving our #behaviour and committing to growth.

Those feelings of remorse and regret are supposed to hold you accountable and to show you in what areas you’re not acting in accordance to who you think you are and to who you want to be. When you act on this guilt, it greatly helps to forgive yourself and to let it go.

Irrational Guilt

Irrational #guilt is based on low #self-esteem and experienced when you take responsibility for things you didn’t do and aren’t responsible for at all.

I.e. when you feel guilty for ending a relationship that was toxic to both you and the other. Why isn’t it productive to feel guilty for ending it? Because you’ve been real and did what you thought was best for you and them.

Never apologize or feel guilty for being real.

This type of guilt has to be approached with a focus on building stronger boundaries. On reminding yourself what you can and cannot control, what you are responsible for and what you aren’t responsible for.

Forgive Yourself

It can be very difficult to forgive yourself when you royally screwed up and know for a fact that whatever suffering someone else experiences is the by product and consequence of your words, actions, decisions and behaviours. However, as long as you are committed to personal growth, genuinely apologize and improve your behavior, it’s safe to forgive yourself for and grow through past mistakes since you hold yourself accountable and fully understand why the thing you said or did was wrong.

Call it guilt, fear, anger, or hatred – essentially, it means your thoughts and emotions are working against you – Sadhguru

As for the other person that got hurt, you cannot control if and when they accept your apology.

They may never forgive you or they may find the space in their heart to let go of the past and move on. However, if they do the latter, it doesn’t mean they will take you back.

All it means is that they freed themselves from the resentment that kept poisoning them.

#Practice mindfulness techniques to help you detach from your thoughts and emotions.

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Overthinking and anxiety are terms that are often used interchangeably, but they actually have different meanings. While overthinking is when you can’t stop worrying about every little thing, anxiety, specifically, is a more generalized feeling of apprehension and uneasiness. Additionally, anxiety is often focused on the future.

In this post, I will discuss the differences between these two concepts, as well as share some strategies for managing them. Whether you’re dealing with overthinking or anxiety, it’s important to remember that you’re not alone and there are ways to cope.” 

People try to create an outwardly perfect life, but the quality of life is based on the inward- #Sadhguru

Introduction

Overthinking:

Overthinking refers to a repetitive process of dwelling on or obsessing over thoughts, events, or scenarios. In other words, it involves analyzing situations excessively, often focusing on potential negative outcomes or past events. As a result, overthinkers may have difficulty making decisions due to overanalysing possibilities and may feel stuck in a loop of thoughts without reaching resolution.

Anxity:

Anxiety is a broader emotional and physiological response to perceived threats or stressors. It involves feelings of worry, fear, or apprehension about future events, with a sense of unease or dread. Anxiety can manifest in physical symptoms such as rapid heartbeat, sweating, trembling, and difficulty concentrating. It is often accompanied by irrational or excessive thoughts (worries) that are challenging to control.

Distinguishing Features

A) Focus:

• Overthinking: Focuses on repetitive thoughts and analysis of specific situations or events, often related to past experiences or decision-making.
• Anxiety: Focuses on future-oriented worries or fears about potential threats or negative outcomes.

B) Impact on Functioning:

• Overthinking: Can lead to indecision, difficulty concentrating on tasks, and a preoccupation with details that may not significantly impact daily functioning.
• Anxiety: Can significantly impair daily functioning, affecting work, relationships, and overall quality of life due to heightened stress responses and avoidance behaviors.

C) Physical Symptoms:

• Overthinking: May not always be accompanied by physical symptoms unless it escalates into anxiety or stress-related reactions.
• Anxiety: Often accompanied by physical symptoms such as tension, restlessness, gastrointestinal issues, and sleep disturbances.

D) Time Orientation:

• Overthinking: Often involves dwelling on past events or ruminating about current issues without necessarily projecting into the future.
• Anxiety: Primarily focuses on future concerns and potential threats, with an emphasis on anticipation and preparedness.

     Example Scenarios:

• Overthinking: Spending hours replaying a conversation in your mind, analyzing every word spoken and its potential implications.
• Anxiety: Feeling intense fear and dread about an upcoming presentation, accompanied by physical symptoms like sweating and a racing heartbeat.

Strategy To Overcome From Mental Trap:

Here are a few steps to Reframe negative thoughts into positive self-talk:

1. Identify negative thought patterns: Notice when you’re engaging in negative self-talk and identify the specific thoughts that are causing you distress.

• Example: You receive a critical comment on a project at work OR You start thinking about being alone in the future
• Thought: “I always mess things up. I’m such a failure / I’ll always be lonely. No one will want to be around me to take care”
• Negative: Thought Pattern: Overgeneralization (i.e., making broad conclusions based on a single event or limited experience or societal belief )

2. Challenge Negative Thoughts: Question whether the negative thoughts are yours, accurate or helpful. Ask yourself if there’s another way to look at the situation.

Evidence: Is there evidence to support this belief? Is there evidence to support the belief that you’ll always be lonely, or that no one will want to be around to care for you?

Alternative explanations: Are there other reasons this could have happened?/ Could there be other reasons you feel this way, or other possibilities for your future?

Is this helpful? How does this thought help or hinder me? / How does this thought about loneliness help or hinder me? Does it motivate me to take positive action or just increase fear of “what if”? Is it my belief or others ?

3.Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations: 

Choose positive statements that counteract the negative thoughts, such as “I am capable
and worthy,” or “I can handle whatever comes my way”

Affirmation: “I am capable of learning from feedback and improving my skills / I am worthy of close connections and support /I may feel lonely at times, but I am capable of building connections and finding people who care about me / i can set boundaries with family and friends who impose expectations.

Present Tense: “I am open to constructive criticism and use it to grow professionally”/I am open to building lasting, fulfilling relationships. Marriage is not the only relationship to lie happy and fulfilled

Believable: “I have successfully overcome challenges in the past and can do so again and again.”/I have formed meaningful connections in the past, and I am capable of doing so again. I can create the life of my dream”

4. Treatment Considerations:

• Overthinking: Mindfulness can be beneficial.
• Anxiety: Treatment may include therapy (e.g.,cognitive-behavioral therapy(CBT),Neural reprogramming ,Reframing ), medication, and stress management techniques like yoga ,mindfulness etc to reduce symptoms and improve coping skills.

Understanding these distinctions can help individuals identify whether they are experiencing overthinking, anxiety, or potentially both, and seek appropriate support or strategies for managing their mental health effectively.

Understanding the differences between overthinking and anxiety can be crucial for recognizing and managing these mental states effectively. Here’s a questionnaire to help distinguish between overthinking and anxiety:

5. Self Help Technique :

Overthinking vs. Anxiety Questionnaire

Feel free to use this questionnaire to reflect on your own thoughts and feelings related to overthinking and anxiety, and to help differentiate between these two mental states. Technique 3

Ever found yourself doing something, then feeling guilty or regret about it later?

I did that because ………………”and you start justifying it to yourself over and over?

A nagging voice in your head kicks in time to time, questioning your choices?

Feels embarrassed or ashamed about something you’ve done, desperately trying to keep it under wraps from others?

You end up doing stuff just because everyone else is doing it, or because you’re afraid of missing out, even if it’s not really your cup of tea?

So, you been there, right?

This post for you, my dear friends! Let’s explore underline cause of these inner conflicts to resolve and empower ourselves by becoming ted more smart, aware and mindful to cope with these unexplainable thoughts. We’re not alone in this struggle! It’s like a secret club of self-doubters and overthinkers.

Overview :

In psychology, the term “Inner conflict” is known as “cognitive dissonance.”

When an individual holds conflicting beliefs, attitudes, or values, or when their actions are inconsistent with their beliefs or attitudes, a sense of discomfort or tension arises in the mind, often manifesting as feelings of guilt, anxiety, stress, or even confusion.  

Cognitive dissonance is common phenomenon for people to engage in internal chat with themselves when they’re trying to figure out their emotions and feelings after doing something.

It’s a fundamental concept in psychology and has significant implications for understanding decision-making, attitude change, and behaviour. Sometimes, what you thought and what you did don’t quite match up, and that can make you feel uneasy or guilty. 

Mismatches Between Your Beliefs and Actions can lead to feelings of discomfort, but you know what? Sometimes feeling that discomfort can actually help you grow and change

Values & Belief Conflicts: 

Value Conflicts are an inevitable part of human life. Guilt and discomfort arise when our actions or decisions contradict our deeply held values. Individuals’ beliefs, principles, or priorities clash with those of others. While these conflicts may seem purely intellectual or philosophical, their psychological ramifications can be profound. 

Values: Provide a sense of purpose and direction (a core principle)

Beliefs: Shape our attitudes and perceptions.

Example 1: someone who deeply value environment protection. They might feel pretty uneasy if their job involves working for a company that’s all about making polythene, which isn’t exactly eco-friendly. 

Example 2: Imagine someone whose core value is Honesty. If they end up having to lie in court because they have a personal relationship with the person on trial, that could really mess with their head leaving them feeling guilt, Shame, or self-doubt, as the person acted in a way that feels dishonest and contrary to their identity of Honesty

Such inner conflict might spill over into their behaviour and responses, causing issues that complicate their relationships with others and even identity crisis, where the individual feels disconnected from their true self, unsure of who they are or what they truly stand for anymore.

Example 3: Someone who deeply value environment protection. They might feel pretty uneasy if their job involves working for a company that’s all about making polythene, which isn’t exactly eco-friendly.

Working for such company, the person is conflicted, as their job supports a product that goes against their environmental values. This creates guilt and frustration, as they struggle to reconcile their passion for protecting the planet with their role. They may start to feel like a hypocrite, torn between their beliefs and their job, which causes guilt, frustration, and internal turmoil.

Few Common Examples of Conflicting Value & Beliefs we’ve all noticed in our own lives :

• You want to be healthy, but you don’t exercise regularly or while dieting often have cheat meals. You feel guilty as a result because your value is “Health is important”. Result of the contradiction between Value (“Health is important”) and belief (that they should exercise regularly and avoid cheat meals) is guilt
• Your Belief(Perception) is that “Smoking/Drinking is harmful to health,” but you do it anyway. You rationalize this action by valuing immediate relief from stress and believing that it helps you feel a sense of control over the consequences. This rationalization helps ease the guilt or discomfort caused by the conflict.
• You’d like to build up your savings (Core Value), but you often spend extra cash as soon as you get it, going against your core value. Later, you regret this decision, especially when faced with an unexpected expense that you can’t cover. This conflict between your actions and your value leads to feelings of regret or guilt.
• You have a long to-do list but spend the day watching your favourite shows or Instagram reels instead. Feeling guilty for not being productive, you don’t want your spouse to know, so you try to make it look like you’ve worked hard all day. This creates a conflict between your intentions (getting things done) and your actions, leading to feelings of guilt and dishonesty.

Remember, it’s natural to encounter conflicts between values and beliefs. What’s important is how you navigate them with integrity and mindfulness.

Challenges Of Value & Belief Conflicts 

1. The Burden of Moral Agony:

Moral turmoil occurs when we recognize the morally correct course of action but find ourselves unable to act or fulfil it due to external constraints or conflicting values. This clash between our ethical beliefs and situational limitations can evoke emotions of guilt, frustration, and powerlessness. 

Consider a passionate animal lover who works at a company that conducts animal testing for cosmetic products. This conflict between his values and job responsibilities can cause significant inner turmoil and ethical dilemmas.

2. Navigating Identity Crises:

Identity Struggle often arise when our core beliefs are closely linked to our self-perception. Confronted with opposing values or societal expectations, we may engage in introspection, re-evaluating our own identity, beliefs, and life’s direction. This internal struggle can evoke emotions of confusion, anxiety, and a decline in self-confidence.

Example: Imagine someone who’s always focused on making money, but suddenly feels drawn to a creative job that doesn’t pay well. They’re torn between what they’ve always been taught and what truly makes them happy. This makes them doubt themselves, their beliefs, and where they’re headed in life, leading to feelings of confusion and anxiety. These thoughts can make them feel unsure of themselves and less confident than before. 

Technique To Resolve Conflicting Value & Beliefs

1. Values Clarification Exercise:

Identify Core Values: Take some time to reflect on your core values – those principles or beliefs that are most important to you. For example, you might list Health, Honesty, Compassion, Family, Career success, or Personal growth.

Rank Your Values: Once you have a list of values, prioritize them based on their importance to you. Consider which values you are not willing to compromise on and which ones are more flexible. For instance, you might rank family as your top value, followed by honesty and career success.

Identify Conflicting Beliefs: Reflect on specific situations where you have experienced confusion or guilt due to conflicting beliefs or values. For example, you might recall a time when you had to choose between being honest with a friend and protecting their feelings, which challenged your value of honesty against your value of compassion.

Explore the Origins: Dive deeper into the origins of your values and beliefs. Consider how your upbringing, culture, past experiences, and influential figures have shaped your worldview. For instance, you might reflect on how your parents’ emphasis on honesty and integrity influenced your own values.

Re-evaluate Assumptions: Challenge any assumptions or beliefs that may be contributing to the conflict. Ask yourself why you hold certain beliefs and whether they are based on evidence, personal experience, or societal norms. For example, you might question whether your belief that success requires sacrificing personal relationships is valid or if it’s a societal stereotype.

Seek Resolution : Look for ways to reconcile conflicting values or beliefs. Explore alternative perspectives, compromise solutions, or reframing techniques that allow you to integrate different viewpoints while staying true to your core values. For instance, you might find a compromise by being honest with your friend in a gentle and empathetic way, thus honoring both honesty and compassion.

Take Action: Implement the resolution strategies you have identified in real-life situations. Practice living in alignment with your core values while navigating conflicting beliefs with integrity and authenticity. For example, you might choose to prioritize honesty in your interactions with others while also considering their feelings and well-being.

Reflect and Adjust: Regularly reflect on your experiences and decisions in light of your core values. Evaluate whether your actions align with your values and beliefs, and make adjustments as needed to maintain congruence and inner harmony. For instance, you might reflect on how your recent actions have aligned with your core values of honesty and compassion, and adjust your behavior accordingly in future situations.

By engaging in values clarification exercise, you will gain clarity on your core values, identify conflicting beliefs, and develop strategies to reconcile them effectively. This process enables you to make confident decisions and take action without experiencing guilt or anxiety afterward, resulting in increased fulfilment and well-being. If you find it challenging to conduct the exercise independently, feel free to reach out to me for personalized guidance at revive2thrivewithmg@gmail.com

2. Reframing:

Reframing is basically shifting or rewiring our perspective or interpretation of a situation in order to change its meaning and reduce mental distress. When faced with conflicting beliefs, emotions, or values, reframing allows us to view the situation in a more positive or constructive light, which can help us alleviate inner turmoil and promote mental well-being. 

This technique involves consciously challenging negative or unhelpful thoughts and replacing them with more adaptive or empowering perspectives, ultimately leading to greater clarity, resilience, and inner peace.

1. Belief in independence Vs. belief in family Commitment.

Reframe: Instead of seeing independence and family commitment as opposing values, view them as complementary. Embrace independence while also maintaining strong connections with family members.

2. Belief in ambition or following passion Vs. belief in work-life balance.

Reframe: Rather than viewing ambition and work-life balance as conflicting, see them as mutually beneficial. Pursue ambitious goals while also prioritizing self-care and personal well-being.

3. Belief in honesty Vs. belief in diplomacy.

Reframe: Instead of perceiving honesty and diplomacy as contradictory, recognize them as complementary approaches to communication. Practice honesty with tact and sensitivity, finding diplomatic ways to express truth.

4. Belief in tradition Vs. belief in progress.

Reframe: Instead of seeing tradition and progress as opposing forces, acknowledge that traditions can evolve over time to embrace new ideas and innovations. Honor tradition while also embracing positive change and growth.

5. Belief in individual freedom Vs. belief in social responsibility.

Reframe: Rather than viewing individual freedom and social responsibility as conflicting, see them as interconnected. Exercise personal freedom while also recognizing the importance of contributing to the well-being of society. 

These reframes helps to shift perspective and encourage a more nuanced understanding of conflicting values and beliefs, ultimately promoting harmony & peace within.

Value conflicts are an inherent part of the human experience, challenging us to reconcile competing beliefs, principles, and priorities. By understanding the psychological impact of these conflicts and adopting strategies for resolution, we can navigate them with greater resilience, integrity, and compassion, fostering greater harmony and understanding in our relationships and communities.

Do you ever experience feelings of hurt or being undervalued by the words spoken by your partner, family members, or friends?

I think we’ve all been there at some point.

It's not just about what's said, but how it's being received that matters .

In this post, we’ll explore why certain words have influence over our emotions and our perception of
ourselves, including our sense of self-worth and self-respect. let’s explore how understanding underlying psychology can bring self-awareness in you to help you grow but also deepen your relationships. Join me on this journey where understanding your reactions isn’t just important for personal growth but can also be the foundation for stronger connections with those around you. Together, we’ll uncover why these comments hit so hard and explore strategies to cultivate emotional resilience.

From Reactivity to Responsiveness: The Triggers Behind Why Some Words Sting Hard:

1. Personal History:

Past experiences, traumas, and upbringing significantly affect how individuals perceive and respond to
words.

For instance, someone who has endured bullying may have a heightened reaction to specific words like “weak” or “fight back.” Similarly, a wife who has discovered her husband’s infidelity may respond defensively and aggressively in social discussions on related topics, perceiving it as a personal attack.

“As these reactions are deeply personal and stem from individual experiences, it’s essential for individuals to recognize and understand their triggers to navigate interactions more effectively.”

2. Beliefs and Values:

Individuals’ perceptions of themselves, others, and their environment significantly influence their emotional and behavioral responses.  For instance, someone who highly values independence may defensively react to words implying dependency or weakness, often resisting suggestions from others.

Similarly, if someone strongly believes that only employed women are valuable, non-working women may feel undervalued, especially when witnessing a husband praising his colleague who is
employed.

This situation may evoke feelings of comparison, personal attack, leading to reactions such as aggression, sarcasm, or emotional distress. Additionally, someone with low self-esteem may misinterpret praise as insincere or sarcastic, further impacting their emotional state.

3. Emotional State:

The current emotional state has a significant impact on how they interpret and respond to
words or situations.

For instance, if someone is grieving and already feeling depressed, they might react more strongly and negatively to simple words, requests, or genuine efforts to help them deal with their grief. They may feel as though others are only concerned about themselves and don’t genuinely care about their loss.

4. Cognitive Processing:

The way individuals interpret and process words can impact their emotional and
behavioral responses.

For instance, someone who tends to catastrophize may interpret a neutral comment as highly negative, leading to an exaggerated emotional response. This happens due to their tendency to magnify or amplify potential threats or negative outcomes in their mind.

By actively challenging and reframing catastrophic thoughts, individuals can reduce the likelihood of exaggerated emotional responses and cultivate a more balanced and resilient mindset.

It’s essential to recognize that it’s our perception of the situation that upsets our mood, rather than the
words or actions of others.

5. Cultural and Societal Norms:

These triggers shaped by cultural & societal norms and interactions, can evoke emotional or behavioral responses which can influence how individuals interpret and respond to words.

Certain words or phrases may carry different meanings or connotations across cultures, leading to varied
emotional responses.

For example, suppose a man assists his partner with household chores and childcare In that case, he may encounter criticism, such as being called “zoru ka gulam” in Indian culture, which can harm his masculinity and self-esteem. As a result, he might avoid helping or react defensively/aggressively to safeguard his ego.

Understanding these dynamics helps us cope with verbal criticism, bolstering emotional resilience
and self-esteem. 

Through self-awareness and mindful communication, we can prevent others’ words and comments from dictating our lives, as they reflect their values and beliefs, not ours.

6. Social validation and comparisons:

Social validation and comparisons are other triggers shaping our emotional well-being and fostering harmony within our homes.

Words that affirm or challenge our social identity and sense of belonging hold significant influence over us. Positive affirmations can uplift our self-esteem, while criticism or rejection may provoke feelings of inadequacy or loneliness.

Social media often amplifies these comparisons, particularly when women encounter their friends’ posts showcasing extravagant weddings, vacations, or seemingly flawless relationships. However, it’s essential to recognize that these curated images may not always reflect reality.

Such exposure often triggers feelings of inadequacy or jealousy, accentuating their own family’s restrictions or limitations and leading to emotional distress.

Consequently, individuals may start taking every other word or statement as a personal attack, affecting not only their relationships but also their social interactions

7. Low Self-Worth:

This factor is crucial in understanding why people often misinterpret situations and feel
others are trying to disrespect or devalue them.

Women are particularly prone to this phenomenon due to their heightened emotional sensitivity, which is
influenced by biological factors.

Misinterpretation of the words contributes to the intensity of emotional reactions triggered
by certain words in several ways:

• Sensitivity to Criticism: Individuals with low self-worth tend to be highly sensitive to criticism or negative feedback, which can trigger intense emotional reactions like shame, inadequacy, or worthlessness, as well as lead to social comparison, all rooted in past experiences and background.
• Validation Seeking: People with low self-worth often seek external validation to feel better about themselves. Imagine someone who continually seeks reassurance from their romantic partner, craving expressions of love and value. Yet, if they receive an unromantic response instead, it reinforces their negative self-perceptions, damaging their self-esteem. This dependency on external validation can result in emotional turmoil and strained relationships, fueling a cycle of seeking approval.

It is important to recognize that our sense of self-worth and value comes from within. Developing a strong internal sense of self-worth that isn’t solely reliant on validation from external sources such as partners, friends, or societal standards is crucial. While seeking reassurance from others is natural, cultivating self-worth independent of external opinions is essential for personal growth and resilience. By understanding and challenging our psychological programming, we can free ourselves from the cycle of seeking validation from others and build healthier relationships.

• Negative Self-Talk: Individuals with low self-worth often engage in negative self-talk, consistently criticizing themselves or doubting their abilities, whether consciously or unconsciously. When individuals hear words that resonate with their negative self-perceptions like ‘You’re not good enough’ or ‘You’ll never succeed, it can validate these beliefs and intensify their emotional reactions, such as anger, sadness, hurt, frustration, and anxiety. 

To deal with negative self-talk, start by recognizing and pen down when it happens and challenging those thoughts. Instead of believing them as truths, question their validity and replace them with more positive alternatives.

Words that challenge or undermine aspects of a person’s identity can be particularly triggering for
individuals with low self-worth. These words may threaten their sense of self and provoke defensive or protective responses to preserve their fragile self-esteem. For example, if someone criticizes a person’s career choice, suggesting that it doesn’t match their abilities, it could lead the individual to question their career path and feel insecure about their skills and value in that profession. This could trigger emotional reactions such as anger, arguments, feeling hurt, or insulted.